Guest Written By Nancy Dickens (sister in law) May 10, 2024

Here’s a little story about a few days with a few of my favorite people. Tim and I just got back from a visit to Tybee Island and Savannah GA with Squid and LoLo (more commonly known as Jim and Lori).

I’ve known Squid since I was 19 years old. I have my own 3 amazing siblings, but I also think of Tim’s big bro Jimmy as my own as well. Luckily Jim’s best decision in his life was marrying Lori and I gained a best friend /sister in the deal! While we have spent a lot of time together, the four of us have not traveled together without kids for 33 years.

We traveled to a beachfront Condo on Tybee Island. Our first night we went to dinner at a restaurant that was featured on Diners Drive Ins and Dives. The pimento fritters were

The perfect weather the next day made for a beautiful, long morning walk on the beach. Then we headed into Savannah where the Spanish Moss dances in the breeze. We took a trolley tour that highlighted history, lush parks, ghost stories, dad jokes and made one important stop at Leopold’s ice cream IYKYK. We had some time after the tour before dinner, so we strolled along the riverfront coming nose to nose with enormous cargo ships. Then indulged in another delicious meal at Vic’s on the River.

Saturday Jim and Tim played a round of golf (not an “official Dickens championship round”) while LoLo and I beach walked some more. Our final dinner together was at The Crab Shack with its 78 alligators. The ambience was unmatched- we ate outside on a beautiful evening under lit trees. Such a happy place with delicious food! You must go there if in Savannah or Tybee!

I think the four of us would agree that the best part of the trip was the laughs! We had so much fun catching up, reminiscing about previous get togethers, hearing more of the Dickens boys mischief filled years in Towanda PA, and looking ahead to getting all the Chicago and Philly Dickens together.

Spending time with people I truly love and cherish fills me with gratitude. Squid and LoLo are those people. Let’s not wait another 33 years!

By Lori Dickens April 2, 2024

To begin, I’d like to thank Jim for allowing me to post the blog for our recent trip to Grand Canyon and Zion. 

 “History belongs to those who write it.”  -J Stanion 

So – this history belongs to me! 

Growing up, my family did not travel very often or very far.  Our big adventures took us to destinations like:  Milwaukee, WI , Springfield, IL, and Mammoth Cave, Kentucky.  My biggest adventures began 36 years ago when Jim and I got married.  

This year, Jim’s anniversary gift to me was a trip to see the Grand Canyon.  Jim, knowing I had never seen it, planned a trip just for me.  To be transparent, Jim plans ALL the trips.  This trip, however, focused on Lori favorites – foregoing any side trips to fish or golf. 

Over the years, Jim told me about his visit to the Grand Canyon which took place approximately 50 years ago.  According to Dickens family lore, Mom and Dad loaded the boys and the dog into the old Cadillac and camped their way across the United States from Towanda, Pennsylvania to Grand Canyon National Park – more than 2,000 miles of travel one way with no “screen time” to break up the monotony of some of the less picturesque states.  Apparently playing cards was the favorite pastime using the dog’s back for the card table and sometimes dealing him a hand.   Dad had read all about the Canyon and the national parks and shared the information with the boys who ungraciously renamed the Grand Canyon – the Big Bore Canyon.  Jim remembers not really being able to climb around enough – too many beautiful vistas – not enough action. 

Our trip to the canyon started on March 17^th – St Patrick’s day.  We flew from Chicago to Phoenix landing in time to drive to Sloan Park in Mesa to see a Cub’s Spring Training game.  Sloan Park was packed with families, some baseball fans, and many drunk St. Patrick day celebrants drinking green beer out of plastic baseball bats and wearing shirts with “Kiss me I’m a Cub’s Fan” emblazoned on the front.  We enjoyed several innings of baseball and people watching in the warm Arizona sun – it was fun and relaxing and not at all boring. We jumped in our car and headed up to Flagstaff.  We spent the night at the Little America Hotel – a beautiful, wooded property.  We had the privilege of seeing the Kaibab squirrel.  They are cute little tassel- eared guys who live in an area of 20 by 40 miles.  A rare find and definitely not boring.  

We got up and out early to head to the El Tovar lodge and to get a first glimpse of the Grand Canyon.  We didn’t see the canyon until we parked our car in the park right near the lodge.  We got out after the 2 hour drive and there it was – so beautiful I was overwhelmed and couldn’t help tearing up.  

Though the rooms at the El Tovar are small and the lodge is dark inside even when the sun is blazing outside – it was the perfect place to be.  We saw the sun rise and set over the canyon. The magnificent view was right outside our window.   We were treated with an amazing rainbow when we exited the shuttle bus at the trail head. We spent the first day hiking around the rim which was gorgeous. The next day we got an early start so we could hike down in- Jim couldn’t wait to be in it. We hiked down the South Kaibab Trail.  After a rainy night, the trail was muddy and slick.  Signs recommended you wear cramp-ons which we did not have.  They also cautioned you to bring lots of water and not over-do.   The hike was worth every slippery step.  The vistas changed throughout our hike.  We trekked down to Skeleton Point – halfway to the bottom of the canyon. The hike out was less strenuous and slippery than I feared and gave us a completely different perspective.  The sights traveling into the canyon were very different than what we saw hiking out.  We saw two California condors riding the thermals overhead – happy to know these magnificent birds are making a comeback.  At the end of the day – we agreed – it was another wonderful, not boring day.

The last leg of our journey was a 4 hour drive to Zion National Park.  We were not the only ones with the great idea of visiting this breathtaking place.  We jammed on the shuttle bus to hike near the narrows.  The popular destination was full of visitors decked out in neoprene outfits.  It was very pretty but we hoped for a different vibe which we found the next day.  After rejecting several hikes proposed by an exhausted park ranger at the end of his shift, he suggested a hike that might rank as our favorite ever. We hiked a secluded, often sandy trail where we flushed out mule deer and heard and saw lots of beautiful birds.  We saw another California condor.  On our 11-mile journey that day, we only met a handful of other hikers.  It was another fantastic encounter with nature.  

I am so grateful I had this trip and the opportunity to visit these iconic sights.  In 36 years, Jim has arranged many adventures.  I can say with complete conviction that nothing about any of this trip or any of the past 36 years has been a bore.  And I hope to keep adventuring along with my buddy for a long time to come.               

By Guest Chris Dickens with edits from Jack Dickens

Welcome to another elusive guest blog post. If you are not a fan of meandering extended metaphors (analogy, allegory, zoomorphism? Not sure which literary device I am using), the summary is that Sophie and I joined a trip to Hawaii, and you should just enjoy the pictures.

Spouting:

Looking out at the ocean from our balcony you would typically see a whale spout every 30 seconds. The whale density is pretty extraordinary when you consider that, like icebergs, 90% of whales are not visible (don’t fact-check this). Flying into Maui it was cloudy and windy. Sophie went on a run at the airport and saw an army of turtles. They are organized, watch out. 

We were excited to see my parents but thought that our activities might be somewhat limited by a rainy forecast.

The Breach:

Our trip exploded into an awesome experience much like a whale shooting out of the water into the air. Too on the nose?

A break in the weather allowed our good family friend Beth to take us on an incredible hike. Winding through dense forest, scratching our shins, and trying to eliminate the invasive strawberry guava by eating every single one, we emerged at a truly breathtaking summit in the ʻĪao valley. The start of great weather and great fun.

SPLASH:

Not sure what it is called when whales slam back into the ocean but you get the point. The rest of the trip we were immersed in wonderful Maui experiences. We swam in the ocean at Makenna beach, ate at the famous Kihei cafe, and for our personal favorite, went whale watching on a sunset cruise. We also got to try a few new things: felt the mist at the Nakalele blowhole, watched a local surf competition, and volunteered some time preparing meals .

Fluking:

Much like my putting on the 18th at the King Kamehameha golf course, our trip was all over the place. See, even my non-animal similes are ham-fisted.

After a high paced vacation, Sophie and I said goodbye, but just for a little while. I’m not sure what 30 minutes in whale-time translates to in human-time, but in the ripples, we left cousins Gretchen and Chris P. to keep the cycle going.

Jim Dickens  February 12, 2024

Usually, I do a lot planning for vacation trips, but for the past month I let go of the reins and found out how great it is to go on the agenda of your trusted family and friends. I’ll be 70 in 8.5 years so Lori and I continued on our quest to have two summers a year. We are south while Northern Illinois does winter.

Our old friends Denise and Darrin invited us to stay with them at their condo in San Jose del Cabo, Mexico. Denise is a master planner and I just let go and went with her agenda. It was marvelous. We played a wonderful golf course, toured the local Bay of California waters, and went to really cool restaurants for dinner. Learning what is happening as it happens instead of researching and planning to know ahead of time was new and differently enjoyable. Almost like getting happy surprises. 

The four of us were on a boat out in the water sitting on the bow when a large humpback whale breached completely out of the water some 75 yards away. When I say out I mean tail and head out at the same time out. After seeing whales maybe 30 times, this was the most spectacular event I’ve witnessed. Lori and I kept following others plans as we stayed south.

A week after returning from Cabo we went south into the Caribbean Lesser Antilles to St John Island for two weeks. Two other couples joined us for the first week and our children with partners joined us for the next one. We had a nice villa on the hill looking over Cruz Bay to the sunset.

Our old friends, Ron & Cris and Tim & Kate planned our first week. Kate and Cris arranged for a sunset cruise, Lime Out, hiking, beach visits and dinners out.  Ron and Tim did geography, history and politics lectures. It was excellent to experience the island through their viewpoint.

On the sunset cruise, our eccentric captain, Jason, served us his own version of the local cocktail, a Pain Killer. Not sure what amount of alcohol and other drugs were in them but they had an immediate and significant effect causing Tim to do creative photography, Ron to lead a dance party back at the villa and me to get into a rare and confusing disagreement with Lori. The cruise was both a rose and thorn of the trip.

Daughter Emily and partner Zak are both practicing engineers and they built a precise schedule of events carefully researched. Luckily the agenda had little overlap with the previous week so new interesting stuff. Son Jack and wife Shelby came from their home in England. Their role was to be calm and carry on despite jet lag.

St John has very popular snorkeling and the popular areas have gotten worn out. Hurricanes Irma and Maria in 2017 have left a mark that still persists. However, Zak’s research uncovered that Salt Bay has a fresh reef a quarter mile off shore but in calm waters if you are willing to make the trip. We did and it was a highlight of the trip. I now have a great shared memory with Jack of our adventure together.

Letting go and trusting family and friends to set the agenda without interference is highly recommended. You gain new perspectives and do new things. So excellent!

by Jim Dickens            January 2, 2024

At my company, as with many companies, sometimes it needed to evolve or change. Once, the executive team was given a book called Switch by Chip and Dan Heath. We all read, discussed and mostly forgot it. But some of it stuck with me. In my own words, making change requires effort, discipline, persistence, and mind space. So attempting to make many simultaneous significant changes is bound to fail. With that in mind, I enter the New Year.

Instead of a lot of big ambitious well defined goals, I am going for an easy guideline with many ambiguous avenues for success.  Let’s call it New Ruts. Life is going well right now and most things beyond maintenance are squared away. Family, shelter, and finance are set for now. So it’s a perfect time to be incremental in improvement. I am going to stay in my current habits or in a rut and just do new things that are closely adjacent. If they are better than the old things, then I will switch into the new rut.

I am not sure on what all the new ruts are but here are a few examples under consideration. I do the old guy sports of golf and fly fishing so Pickleball is just a step away. Next door to fly fishing is fly tying so maybe. Eating is becoming a bigger deal as it does for many as you get older so maybe becoming proficient at cooking. The guideline takes the place of difficult, unpleasant, doomed to fail New Year’s resolutions.

In October, a well meaning but misguided Mexican airport security guard confiscated my saltwater flies. I head back to Mexico in a few days and have started tying flies for the trip so 2024 New Rut success is off to a good start. 

by Jim Dickens                 December 20, 2023

Somewhere around December 21st, is the darkest day in the northern hemisphere. Cloudy with low sun angle and the latest sunrise and earliest sunset characterize that day. There are many traditions and religious holidays old and new that brighten these dark days. I think a lot of it is by design. Reflecting back on 2023 in these dark days, the uplift I get comes from a different direction, my wife, Lori. She is the brightest light on the darkest day.

Our two sons got married this year and marriage has occupied a large amount of thought space. My opinion is that marriage is almost always your most important relationship beyond children and parents. You will spend more time with your spouse than any other human. You are tied legally together so that all significant decisions need to be done together. Your spouse will have huge impact on how good or bad living life is.

Reflecting back, Lori has propelled our lives forward instead of holding them back. She has taken joy in my joy as we have traveled the world this year. She was game to do things she didn’t think she would do like riding a helicopter on to a glacier then mountaineering on it. She sent me on fishing trips and was happy when I had a good one. She tried to see things from my perspective as we decided how to participate in weddings. Lori is the spouse who builds you up instead of dragging you down.

In these dark days, spending time with Lori is what brightens them most.

Last Goggle Text

My ironwoman niece in law, gave me a pair of excellent swim goggles on Lake Chelan, WA after looking at my 20 year old yellowed goggles in dismay. Since that time, July of 2022, I texted her pictures from places I use them. In 2023, they have been in the Pacific and Atlantic oceans, the Tasman, Flores and Caribbean seas, the California and Mexico Gulfs, and numerous lakes and pools. The last stop of 2023 was the Gulf of Mexico off Marco Island, FL.

I am back home in Naperville, IL in December catching my breath, although the cold grey days have me making plans already. I plan not to venture quite so far abroad in 2024 and getting that pick up taking me on the road.

Still Traveling

Somehow I managed to only be home a few days in October. It was lots of fun with family, fishing and large mammals. Park City to Bozeman to Naperville to Baja, Mexico, to Naperville to San Francisco to Reno to Naperville.

Of interest was Baja, Mexico. My friend Pete was invited because of a cancellation to join a group of bluegrass musicians and their friends. I was invited to join Pete because his girlfriend cancelled. The trip to the Bahia de los Muertos was a mix of lows and highs and little in between. For example, our driver from the airport fell asleep and ran off the road crashing through a road sign shattering van windows, a low. The blue grass musicians were world class with many grammys and played tremendously every evening, a high. The slide show below has more of the highs.

The other travel was great and stuff I usually do. So here are a few pics from the various locales. The captions have comments of note.

Having friends and family taking you on adventures is the best.