Trying to live well
Be yourself; Everyone else is already taken.
— Oscar Wilde.
The R1TTour.com blog is my creative outlet and a way to share. My R1T is my pick up truck and a symbol of the liberty I have enjoyed for the past five years and plan to enjoy going forward.
Jim Dickens April 2026
Sheryl Crow sang, “It’s not having what you want, it’s wanting what you’ve got”. And Jim Buffet sang, “I’d rather die while I’m living than live while I’m dead”. The quotes make us think about how we live our lives. Well I led a trip to Key West with three good long time buddies to fish and it really got me thinking.
I ignored my earlier blog advice on not sending good money after bad. Instead, we all went to Key West despite the poor weather report and the warning from our fishing guides. The fishing was horrible and we cut days short to get out of a cold steady 30 mile an hour wind. The result was a lot of time to walk around Key West which has an infinite amount of live music, bars, restaurants and t shirt shops. It also has a crazy mix of cruise ship vacationers, international vacationers, RVers, snow birds, corporate drop outs, private boat people, workers and a few fishermen to observe.
There are a lot of lifestyle choices. Some are boisterous enjoying the music, others are busily exploring the local shops, there are the usual check me out in Key West social media types and a few exhibitionists wearing costumes or nothing. There is lots of smoking, drinking, walking, bike riding, chilling, sailing, snorkeling, and dining available and on display.
I like a majority of the US population but a shrinking segment drink alcohol. It will shorten my life. My buddies and I watched the Masters sitting outside at a fun bar, walked to the southernmost point in the US, discovered guitar playing Cliff Cody with his beautiful voice and had dinner as the sun set every evening. Alcohol was a great social lubricant and I enjoyed myself immensely.
I left Key West to join my family and see my daughter paced by my son run a half marathon in Jersey City. My daughter wanted to run a personal best so she followed a strict 4 month regimen of exercise eschewing alcohol and eating well. My son, to be a good pacer, did the same. Race day was a success with good pacing and a personal best. It was joyous not just for my son and daughter but the whole family. I felt inspired.
Despite the horrible fishing, it was a great experience. I am no guru so will not dispense how to live advice. Trips like this help you seek your own counsel on living life and like I said it get’s you thinking.
PS Between Key West and Jersey City, Pete and I stopped to see a new friend and go kite fishing on his ocean going boat. He generously and kindly took us out and educated us. We enjoyed his company immensely and learned a lot. We set the boat record of concurrently catching 5 sailfish. More to consider.
Jim Dickens April 2026
My niece, Kirsten, came to stay last weekend. She’s 40 years old and said it was awesome. In her late 30’s she dreaded that milestone. It turned out she was doing great and surprisingly it was freeing to be 40. Sometimes you don’t even see the milestone coming. When I turned 55, I realized I was closer to 60 than 50 and middle age was distant in the rearview mirror. So 55 was the milestone that hit not 50 or 60.
It’s interesting how a milestone can just appear and bring out strong emotions. Well recently I just had one and it wasn’t positive. I received my Medicare card in the mail. It hit me that I am no longer just older but old.
You can say, age is a state of mind. Or just keep moving. Or there are still many quality days left. But, the measurements don’t lie. Physically, I am much weaker, slower and less stable. For medicare people who say that isn’t true for them, well I bet they didn’t try too hard in their youth. Mentally, I’m not measuring much but if I did, I wouldn’t be surprised to have a similar decline.
Not all milestones are age related. I think of the day my oldest child was dropped off at college or the day my youngest got married. Those milestones hit unexpectedly hard emotionally. I am often surprised when they hit because I haven’t heard from others about it or haven’t thought it through.
It will be interesting to see how I deal with turning 65 and whether I find a freeing outlook like my niece.
Jim Dickens March 2026
Sustainability, while top of mind for me, makes my friends fall asleep when I babble about it. Recently, I to saw the benefit of sustainability practiced on a trip with Lori down the coast of California. The warm sunny weather followed us from Mexico the previous week making the coast more pleasant than usual.
We landed in San Francisco and visited with new friends in Atherton then started our trip down the coast to Cambria and back. There is a slide show of nice pictures below. Just go look at those if you don’t want to hear some of my comments on the success of sustainability witnessed.
Lori and I hiked in Big Basin Redwood State Park. Three years ago it had a large forest fire. Because the redwoods have been protected the forest is recovering. Redwoods are pretty fire resistant and survived. They stopped bad erosion an allowed a normal quick recovery. Had the area been clear cut the land would still be as desolate as when it first was cut and the surrounding area polluted with erosion. Good sustainable forestry leads to better long term timber yields and a healthier environment.
From Big Basin, we kayaked in Elkhorn Slough, did the Pebble Beach 17 mile drive and hiked in Point Lobos State Park in Monterey Bay. We saw lots and lots of sea otters doing cute sea otter stuff. About a hundred years ago the otters got some protection and about fifty years ago they got comprehensive protection. Down to a population of 1,000 a hundred years ago to 3,000 fifty years ago to 135,000 to today. The otters have caused a come back of kelp forests along the coast. The new kelp forests have increased all marine life making a more productive fishery.
We drove further down the newly reopened sections of Pacific Coast Highway past Big Sur down to Cambria. We got to see lots of sea lions, harbor seals, and elephant seals on beach, on the rocks and bobbing in the Pacific. Protection starting about 50 years ago along with the otters has lead to big increases in populations which has caused increases above and below in the food chain.
On the way back up the coast we sailed on a whale watching trip one morning looking at humpbacks and gray whales. The humpback and grays have had big come backs from just a few thousand to ninety thousand. Their return has improved the fisheries in Alaska as well has California by speeding up the food chain cycles. With marine mammal protection and coastal marine preserves the sea has come to life. A recent study around the Channel Islands indicates that while banning fishing in the preserve the area’s overall catches have improved. They think the preserve incubates and provides abundant fishing in the surrounding area. It shows how being sustainable can increase food supply in the long term.
Its not all happy news. On the drive temperatures were 20 degrees above normal reminding us that global warming is here. Recently, the gray whale population has gone from 27,000 to 13,000 in just a few years. It is believed the lack of arctic sea ice has disrupted the food chain causing the gray whales to starve.
Thanks for reading my thoughts as we thoroughly enjoyed the California coast.
Jim Dickens March 2026
The cliche’ phrase “don’t send good money after bad” is often ignored by business people. They are sure their idea is good and just a little more funding will turn it around despite all indicators saying loser. Having retired I was wrong in thinking those days were over.
For the past several years we have gone to Maui, visited with resident friends and vacationed with friends and family. That was again the plan this March. We reserved lodging, a rent a car, and bought plane tickets. A few weeks out the forecast looked like rain. But we assumed it would be the usual afternoon cloudiness with a short rain burst. Well it was not true.
The Sunday before the Wednesday we were supposed to leave we texted with our resident friends. They said the weather coming was of the worst kind that some call the Kona winds. Monday, despite my best efforts, canceling our lodging and getting a refund was not going to happen. What to do?
Well luckily remembering the cliche phrase we cancelled anyway and ate the cost of going. Going to watch windy Hawaii rain all week in a small condo was not a good way to spend time and money. So we pivoted on Tuesday and went to visit friends in San Jose Del Cabo, Mexico.
We had great warm sunny weather and spent lots of time outside. No regrets and a reminder on good decision making even for lower stakes.
Here’s a slide show of the warm sunny correct choice we made.
By Jim Dickens, February 2026
I think the pundits are wrong about the need for more babies. We visited Tasmania and glimpsed a wonderful world with a pristine environment. With the world human population growing from living longer and still mostly living by extractive versus sustainable means, I’d first advocate for transformation to sustainability among other things.
For context, Tasmania is a state of Australia and an island south of the mainland. It is forested and has a low population, 500,000, relative to its land mass, the size of West Virginia. The climate is temperate and the soil is fertile. It is carbon neutral with relatively benign agricultural practices, abundant wild life and protected wilderness and sufficient renewable energy. The cities are manageable and unclogged with traffic.
Lori and I with 4 good friends joined a group tour of supported biking, hiking and kayaking with luxury dining and lodging. We started north in Launceston and meandered down to Hobart in the south. We biked three days, hiked three days and kayaked with a staff that told us what we were doing and seeing. We had local meals with hosts telling us their stories, at a regenerative farm, a restored movie house, and a converted presbyterian church.
The lake shores and beaches were uncrowded without docks and high rises. The air is the cleanest in the world and the waters and forests are teaming with strange animals and plants compared to our northern hemisphere specimens. The topography is gentle and manageable.
We’d love to comeback and just explore some more on our own. In an apocalypse, Tasmania is touted as a great place to survive. I’d rather we transform our world in this direction than increasing our population and wearing out our environment.
by Jim Dickens January 2026
I learned on my recent trip to Bhutan that some Himalayan Buddhists practice thinking about death 3 times a day. It helps you live a better life. I imagine it helps prioritize what you do and how you appreciate. It felt true as 10 old friends headed to San Jose del Cabo to warm our bones in January.
Recently one of those friends was put in palliative care because of her cancer. She is in pain and her mobility is limited. The large and difficult effort she made was inspirational. And we were grateful she came. It made the trip better. It seemed we listened better and had more care in what we did and how we treated each other. It made me think about what if we acted this way outside the circumstance.
Lori and I extended our trip to see our brand new grand daughter, our son and daughter in law. They are going through a steep learning on how to be mother and father and child. I loved that they seemed to be making it a beautiful experience. Again we were grateful and inspired.
You can get stuck in the middle thinking life just keeps going on forever and forget your priorities. This trip was a marvelous way to be reminded.
By Jim Dickens December 19, 2025
When we left our oldest at college, I was unexpectedly emotional. I failed to realize until the moment that our son was leaving us to start his own life. It was not just another first day of school. Without foreseeing the moment, you are unprepared and the sudden realization can be very emotional.
My friends who are already grandparents told me it was the greatest. I thought about it and discounted it. I knew from parenting that new borns looked funky and were incapable of doing anything. Well now I am a grand parent and I have to admit I was wrong and my friends were right.
We were invited to come to the hospital and be there when our grand child was born. So we used our “go bags” and flew to San Francisco arriving at he hospital 4 hours before the birth. We got to hang around and go through the play by play. Thankfully it all worked out well with baby and mom healthy. And well, I was overly emotional ending with joy.
I didn’t anticipate watching our kids go through the roller coaster of anxious anticipation, pain, relief and joy. Also, there is the magic of a new life appearing suddenly. Being very attached to the kids I rode the roller coaster with them. It was a great and powerful emotional ride. Understanding this connection now, I realize the birth is just the beginning and the emotional connection will continue.
Jim Dickens December 2025
Go Bag
What situation would cause you to pack a go bag? If you’ve watched enough action drama you know that people often pack “go bags” so on a moments notice they can travel to save the world from destruction or solve the crime of the century. Well Lori and I now have them for a different reason.
Our go bags are packed because we have been invited to come to the hospital for the birth of a grand daughter, our first grand child. It’s a marvelous chance to have some more awe in our life. However, we live in Chicago and our grand daughter will be born in San Francisco some time soon. We will grab our go bags, head to the airport and board the next flight.
Our friends have all told us what a great thing grand children are. We are pretty happy with the current situation. But we trust them even though they struggle to describe the greatness exactly. It will be fun to do the go bag thing. But we are looking forward even more to a new stage, being grandparents, and thrilled our kids will have the joy of parenting.
Jim Dickens October 2025
Bhutan: The Adventure
Our tour leader, Jim, said, “Get ready this will be big boy fishing.” I think he was saying it to me because it soon became clear all the others were experienced big boy fisherman and could handle it easily. We were the first group going to the first fishing lodge in Bhutan. It was a great privilege to be the guinea pigs.
Besides my buddy Pete and me, there were four others. Jim, the CEO of the largest fly fishing travel company, who has fished all over the world; Flint a skier, blue water fisherman, and golfer who has been from the Seychelles to Cuba with Jim on other big boy fishing trips; Chris who once took a semester off of college to drive through Mexico with sea kayaks to Belize to spear his fish dinner everyday or starve; and Scott, a gear geek, an accomplished snowboarder, mountain biker and e foil rider. All are expert fly fishermen.
In 2007 our host, Bryant was working for the World Wildlife Fund when the Bhutan government asked him to do a feasibility study on fly fishing tourism in Bhutan. He explored and fished around the country for over a decade and then got permission to found Himalayan Fly Fishing, an outfitter that does river raft fishing week long camping trips. Subsequently, Bryant and a couple of Bhutanese guide partners built a fishing lodge. Bryant and Jim agreed Jim would bring a group to be the first lodge guests.
So we adventured in magical Bhutan. We kept deciding not to fish because we saw something else. We were supposed to fish for trout in the alpine Haa Valley but we came across a carnival with exotic things like sword fighting demonstrations. So we cut our fishing time down to about 90 minutes and spent time at the carnival. We were supposed to fish for 6 days in the jungle but only fished for five. Instead we went to a ranger station in the national park where we saw an elephant off in the distance, some wild water buffalo, langur monkeys, barking deer and a 7 foot cobra. We stopped to see the King and Queen depart on a plane in Gelephu.
We did fish hard, rafting down rivers with rapids, and clambering down jungle river banks following our guides who kept the paths open with their patangs. We traversed suspension bridges and climbed over boulders. We caught the revered chocolate masheer and the sacred golden masheer. Amazing fish that fight above their weight class but are also pretty big to start with. Luckily we had drivers and guides that helped us at every turn and kept us safe. It is an amazing but wild country.
We ate the delicious national dish, ema datshi, that is so spicy you have to stop even though you want to eat more. We went to the tourist favorite Tiger’s Nest and the largest buddha statue in the world. The group took a helicopter to get from the lodge back to the airport and saw the Himalayas, our river lodge and the largest buddha statue from the air.
Everywhere we went we were helped with grace, patience and energy. Our guides, lodging staff, and even people we met walking around helped us. The culture here is distinctly different in positive ways from anywhere else I’ve been. It’s on the do again list with my wife, Lori. I hope Bhutan only changes for the better and remains wonderfully exotic.
It felt like “big boy fly fishing”. Being the first tourists floating the river, crossing the bridge, climbing the hillside or flying that helicopter route made you wonder how it would turn out. It felt wilder and less predictable. Learning to navigate the terrain and fish the rushing river required lots of energy and experience. Don’t come here until you are ready but definitely come here.
Jim Dickens November 1, 2025
Like many westerners who visit Bhutan, my visit was profoundly impactful. More so than any other country I have visited. And the impact comes for many reasons not a single thing. I’ll break it in two, the land and the people.
The Land
Bhutan is 90 miles north to south and 150 miles east to west at a subtropical latitude. It’s altitudes go from over 24,000 feet in the north to less than 1000 feet in the south. The whole country seems to be dangerously steep. Over 60% is forest with very few roads. There is incredible biodiversity in such a small country. Alpine evergreens, yaks and snow leopards are found in the north while jungles with elephants and tigers are found in the south.
I have trouble catching my breath hiking in the northern altitude and fish a jungle river with monkeys in the trees in the south. The size of the mountains and the density of the jungle is surreal. The steepness of the enormous mountainsides and velocity of the ripping large rivers is like nothing I have ever seen. One of our guides sadly drowned rafting the Manas River a day before we were to fish with him. The scale, the beauty and the pristine environment are new and amazingly beautiful.
The People
Bhutan is about the safest place you can visit despite being about the poorest. It is an interesting paradox that people have freedom of movement and speech and no castes but have all kinds of rules regarding dress and architecture and how you should live. Bhutan is desperate to retain it’s cultural identity while facing the advance of technology and interacting with the rest of the world.
All citizens we meet are calm, polite, speak quietly but are friendly. Everyone seems to know everyone and help each other in an almost communal way. The city has no homeless, no starvation and very little trash. People are literate and almost all practice a tibetan style of Buddhism. Most speak a good deal of english. There is lots of manual labor going on everywhere we look.
Bhutan is a monarchy evolving to an English style democracy. The king and queen seem to be loved and respected. It sounds like they are trying to be humble and benevolent. There are less than 800,000 citizens and tourism is highly managed. They don’t want tourism trashing the country and corrupting the culture.
The Land and the People
Bhutan is maybe the only country that is carbon negative. Following their Buddhist practice there are laws against killing anything. They have set aside large areas to remain wild. Law also mandates that more than 50% of the land remains forested. The people seem to care and live with the land instead of conquering it. For example, when a tiger starts eating a farmer’s cows he is compensated and the tiger is never euthanized. The farmer then either decides not have cows or moves them somewhere safer.
I hope you can understand that being in this environment for a couple of weeks can have some very positive effects on how you live your life. It can adjust how you treat others and nature. I know this sugar coats Bhutan because there are lots of exceptions to my descriptions. Regardless, the visit was a strongly unique experience in mostly pleasant ways, I hope any positive lifestyle changes stick.
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